I woke up this morning, and not too long after I was introduced to an event in my friends life where he e-mailed a long put-off apology to someone he had offended. He explained that they responded in a not so expected form, which sparked many thoughts in my head. Thoughts that apply to all of us.
Why do we send apologies and condolences to people and even think about the result, or response to our actions? That seems like it nullifies the initial point of apologizing. We must go beyond ourselves mentally in order to truly apologize and “feel sorry” for something that maybe we did or in some cases didn't. It seems feasible that if we simply apologize to people in order to set ourselves free of the situation, then thats all we need to do. The other person does not have to accept or even acknowledge. They just have to know that we are sorry and that is it. Of course the story is different with God, because we know we are forgiven the minute we ask, but in the case of humanity, it has to be best to apologize with no thought of what comes back. It has to be best to apologize with a spirit of releasing and relieving things from our shoulders. As our shoulders shift back we realizing that apologizing for things is actually about freeing ourselves from situations, not necessarily the other person. Whether they accept or deny or argue an apology is their problem. Our problem is actually meaning it with our entire heart.
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